The festive season can be one of the most joyful times of the year. There are celebrations, family gatherings, office parties, dinners out, and long-awaited reunions.
For many women in midlife and beyond, this season feels particularly meaningful. It’s a time to connect with grown children, enjoy precious moments with grandchildren, and celebrate the life we’ve built.
But for many of us, the holiday season also brings something less joyful: a spike in drinking.
There are more invitations, more social pressure, more “special occasions,” and more opportunities to say, “Oh go on then, it’s Christmas!” Before we know it, we’re drinking more often and more heavily than we intended.
That can leave us feeling tired, low, bloated, anxious, and a little disappointed with ourselves when January arrives.
If you’ve ever thought, I wish I could enjoy the holidays without overdoing the alcohol… then this article is for you.
The good news is that with the right strategies, you can have a fun, connected, meaningful festive season without slipping into drinking habits that don’t serve you.
Let’s explore why we drink more during the holidays, how to prevent it, and how to create a festive season that feels genuinely good – inside and out.
Why We Tend to Drink More Over the Holidays
Even women who are generally moderate drinkers often find themselves drinking more in December. There are a few reasons for this and none of them are signs of weakness or lack of willpower.
1. The Number of “Special Occasions” Increases
The festive season can turn into one long social marathon: Christmas lunches, work parties, holiday dinners, catch-ups with friends, New Year’s Eve gatherings. If we drink at every event, we can easily consume two or three weeks’ worth of alcohol in a few days.
2. Social Norms Get Stronger
Alcohol is woven into holiday culture. “Let’s celebrate!” usually assumes alcohol. Even if nobody pressures us directly, the expectation is in the air – and it takes confidence to do something different.
3. Emotions Run High – In All Directions
The holidays can be joyful, but they can also stir up loneliness, grief, family tension, financial worries, or fatigue. Alcohol can become a quick escape from feelings we don’t want to sit with.
4. Routine Disappears
Healthy habits (exercise, sleep, hydration, mealtimes) may get disrupted. When our usual rhythm disappears, so does the sense of balance that normally keeps our drinking in check.
Understanding why it happens is the first step toward doing things differently this year.
The Hidden Costs of Festive Drinking
Many women tell me that alcohol feels like their “holiday treat.” But when we zoom out and look at what alcohol actually gives us, the picture becomes clearer.
Short-Term Costs
- Poor sleep
- Low mood or anxiety
- Sluggish digestion
- Sugar cravings
- Irritability
- Hangovers that last longer than they used to
Our bodies simply don’t process alcohol the way they did at 25 and that’s normal.
Long-Term Costs
Regular December drinking can trigger habits that carry into January and beyond. For women over 50, alcohol can also impact:
- Hormone balance
- Bone density
- Immune function
- Liver health
- Weight and metabolism
None of this means you shouldn’t enjoy yourself. It simply means alcohol deserves a little more awareness and a little less autopilot – especially at this stage of life.
How to Manage Your Drinking This Festive Season
Here are some realistic, gentle ways to enjoy the holidays without overindulging. These tips have helped thousands of women I’ve coached through Tribe Sober.
1. Set an Intention Before the Season Begins
Instead of saying, “I’ll try to drink less,” get specific.
You might set intentions like:
- “I will only drink on Christmas Day and New Year’s Eve.”
- “I will have no more than two drinks per event.”
- “I will choose alcohol-free drinks at all family gatherings.”
- “I will do a completely alcohol-free December.”
Your intention becomes your anchor; a decision made with your best self in mind.
2. Avoid Drinking on an Empty Stomach
This is a simple, powerful one.
Eating a proper meal, especially with protein and healthy fats, slows alcohol absorption and helps stabilise your mood and blood sugar.
If you’re heading to a party with unknown food timing, have a healthy snack before you go. Your future self will thank you.
3. Alternate Alcoholic Drinks with Alcohol-Free Ones
This keeps you hydrated, slows your drinking pace, and prevents the “I’ve lost count…” moment.
Try:
- Sparkling water with lemon
- Cordials
- Alcohol-free wines or beers
- Mocktails
- Tonic water with lime
Nobody even needs to know you’re doing it.
4. Be Mindful of Rounds and Top-Ups
This is where many women lose track.
If someone keeps topping up your glass, you’ll never know how much you’ve had.
A simple strategy is to serve your own drinks, or politely decline a top-up until your glass is empty.
5. Create a Festive “Drink Plan”
If you know in advance which events you’ll drink at – and which you won’t – you remove the emotional decision-making from the moment.
For example:
| Date | Event | My Drink Plan |
| 22 Dec | Dinner with friends | Alcohol-free |
| 24 Dec | Christmas Eve | 1 glass of wine |
| 25 Dec | Christmas lunch | 2 drinks max |
| 27 Dec | Neighbour drinks | Alcohol-free |
This approach gives you control without feeling deprived.
6. Keep Your Hands (And Mind) Busy
At gatherings, try:
- Taking photos
- Dancing
- Helping the host
- Playing with grandchildren
- Starting conversations
- Making mocktails
The less attention on alcohol, the more you focus on connection, joy, and laughter.
7. Have an Exit Strategy
If certain events are particularly boozy or triggering:
- Drive yourself
- Plan a timed departure
- Arrange a taxi for a set hour
Leaving early is self-care, not failure.
8. Consider Doing a Completely Alcohol-Free Festive Season
For many women, this is a revelation.
They wake up fresh, present, and proud. They lose the festive bloat. Their sleep improves. They reconnect more deeply with family and themselves.
You don’t have to give up alcohol forever just try one alcohol-free December and see how good it feels. You might just decide to make 2026 an alcohol-free year!
Why an Alcohol-Free Festive Season Is Becoming a Trend
More women over 50 are exploring alcohol-free living, not out of obligation, but out of curiosity.
The rise of sober socialising, mindful drinking, and alcohol-free alternatives means there has never been a better time to experiment.
Imagine starting January feeling:
- Clear-headed
- Empowered
- Rested
- Grounded
- Proud
That’s a gift you can give yourself – and it lasts far longer than champagne bubbles.
A Festive Invitation for You
If the idea of a calmer, clearer, healthier festive season appeals to you, I invite you to join our Tribe Sober Festive Open House.
From 21 December to 2 January, we are opening our membership completely free of charge so you can:
- experience our community
- join our live sessions
- access expert support
- get inspired with alcohol-free tools and tips
- discover how good alcohol-free living can feel.
You’ll meet women just like you – curious, brave, thoughtful, and ready to make this holiday season a positive turning point.
All you have to so is sign up as a monthly Tribe Sober member and use the coupon code OpenHouse12.
You’ll get 12 days of free access to all of our membership features.
👉 Learn more and join us here.
It’s a powerful way to step into the New Year feeling strong, supported, and in control.
It could just be the first step to your alcohol-free lifestyle – a happier and healthier lifestyle!
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Do you worry about drinking too much during the Holidays? Have you ever had an alcohol-free December? Do you usually start the New Year feeling exhausted? Do you do Dry January?